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Ok sorry it took me a bit, I had a bit of a weed ordeal that lasted like 48 hours but I'm okay now lol, also I wrote out like half of this and then accidentally deleted it. Anyhow A really big thing for me was psychoeducation. Coming to understand why exactly my brain works the way it does, how our brains develop and why development is disrupted was really huge in removing a big chunk of the shame and self-hatred I felt, which made my OCD much worse and harder to cope with. Shame also interferes a lot with doing any inner work - shame suppresses, which is the opposite of what you're trying to do. Here are some books that really, really helped me understand myself and answered sooooo many questions for me: Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman, Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine, CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker, Running on Empty by Jonice Webb, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Adults by Lindsay C. Gibson, Scattered Minds by Gabor Maté (even if you believe you weren't emotionally neglected as a child, I highly recommend reading these last three books, as they have a wealth of information about childhood brain development and how it effects us as adults), No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, Transcending Trauma by Frank G. Anderson, Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors by Janina Fisher. Before writing out all this shit, I just want to take a second to talk about what I've learned from all of these books and resources, which is that all of the answers to our problems are contained within us. In Western society, we're conditioned from a very young age to suppress our feelings rather than experience them. The problem is, this doesn't make them go away. Feelings want to be felt and acknowledged - they exist for extremely important survival reasons. The more we suppress thoughts and feelings, the more cut off we become from our subconscious, and the more we deal with inner conflicts, OCD symptoms and symptoms of unresolved trauma. The more we suppress, the harder those feelings try to get our attention, and the more likely they will be to morph into all kinds of symptoms. We become cut off from our bodies, which makes it even harder for us to sense and understand why we do the things we do, why our minds work the way they do, what our wants and needs are, etc. The more able we are to get in touch with our subconscious, the more we notice and turn towards our feelings instead of away from them, the more connected we become to ourselves and the world around us. We become able to understand why we make the choices we do and why we feel the things we feel, and what those feelings need from us. We gain clarity, peace and control over our own lives. We stop being afraid of being overwhelmed by our feelings, as we know now that they can't hijack us and take over control. The things below will help you do just that, connect with your subconscious and bring it to light. Carl Jung described the act of learning about himself in this way as the most important moments of his life. Ok onto resources! https://integralguide.com/IFS The integral guide is immensely useful and packed with tons of information that's super easy to read and digestible. If you have any interest or curiosity about IFS please read the linked page, but feel free to check out the other pages, there's a lot of insightful and informative writing on there, lots of resources, practices, and guidance. https://bookofbeing.life/welcome This is similar to the above, with lots of information on inner work, our societies and how they shape our minds, brain development, CPTSD, etc. Super useful. https://liveifs.notion.site/IFS-Books-Youtubes-etc-b1fb32e8ffed4edf9b1dbb976cd2b017 Huge collection of information about IFS, ranked by how beginner friendly it is. Looking into ego state therapy can help you understand IFS. https://www.egostateinternational.com/ego-state-therapy.php https://focusingresources.com/our-library/#recs This a method of self-inquiry that's similar to IFS, but I think it's a bit simpler. I recommend it if IFS feels too overwhelming for you right now. Check out the "Releasing Blocks to Action," video, which can offer you some immediate relief. This is the Focusing/Untangling method by Eugene Gendlin. There's also a great book about this called Untangling by Barbara McGavin and Ann Weiser Cornell. If you're interested in this method I recommend it! https://www.yourbreakawake.com/journalspeak This is a simple and straightforward method for journalling for the sake of self-inquiry. Great way to get started if you're not sure what to do. https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/ https://www.sedona.com/How-It-Works Two additional methods of self-inquiry. Check out both (both are simple and easy to learn) and see which one resonates with you most. https://jungiancenter.org/jung-on-active-imagination-features-methods-and-warnings/ https://scottjeffrey.com/active-imagination/ This is Carl Jung's method, called Active Imagination. https://cerebral.com/care-resources/inner-child https://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/what-is-an-inner-child Another framework, similar to IFS and ego state therapy, called Inner Child work. The Loving Parent Guidebook is a wonderful book about this. I know this is a lot of stuff, but DON'T BE OVERWHELMED. I promise the baseline idea here is easy to understand and learn, these are all just various methods of doing more or less the same thing: learning about yourself and bringing your subconscious actions, feelings and thoughts to the forefront so that they can be processed, understood, dealt with. It's not anywhere near as information dense as it seems. IFS in particular can seem overwhelming at first, but once you understand the basic idea behind it it's very intuitive for many people. I might come back and update this if I realize I missed something, but for now, enjoy!